Abstract
Robots must verbalize their past experiences when users ask "Where did you put my keys?" or "Why did the task fail?" Yet maintaining life-long episodic memory (EM) from continuous multimodal perception quickly exceeds storage limits and makes real-time query impractical, calling for selective forgetting that adapts to users' notions of relevance. We present H^2-EMV, a framework enabling humanoids to learn what to remember through user interaction. Our approach incrementally constructs hierarchical EM, selectively forgets using language-model-based relevance estimation conditioned on learned natural-language rules, and updates these rules given user feedback about forgotten details. Evaluations on simulated household tasks and 20.5-hour-long real-world recordings from ARMAR-7 demonstrate that H^2-EMV maintains question-answering accuracy while reducing memory size by 45% and query-time compute by 35%. Critically, performance improves over time - accuracy increases 70% in second-round queries by adapting to user-specific priorities - demonstrating that learned forgetting enables scalable, personalized EM for long-term human-robot collaboration.
