What’s a “good” feedback loop for social skills without turning life into a scoreboard?

I’ve been thinking about feedback loops for social behavior. Most of us only get delayed, messy feedback: awkward silence, a vibe shift, someone not replying and so on... well, it’s hard to learn from.

I’m exploring a wearable AI concept that gives lightweight real-time signals (like “attention increased” or “people are disengaging”) based on on-device computer vision. No recording, no storage, just immediate processing and discard.

I’m not trying to gamify people or turn relationships into metrics. I’m trying to find the line where feedback is helpful, not obsessive.

What would be a red flag that the product is pushing people into over-optimization? Should feedback be “after the fact” summaries only, not real-time? I'm open to your ideas and opinions.